Sex & The City

We have had a fabulous weekend! It has been so nice to not be busy as we have been over the past several months.
Saturday I went to see the Sex & The City movie with my girlfriend. I loved it! Without giving anything away about the plot, these are 2 themes I loved about the movie.

1. No matter what happens, Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte stay close girlfriends. They don't let time, distance, significant others or children stop them from having their girl time. How often do we busy wives and moms really get to time to be together and just be girlfriends? It seems that it gets harder and harder all the time. Once you get married, you have to consider your partner's schedule as well as your own. Then if you have children, you become much more busy between balancing their schedules, family gatherings and simply the day-to-day business that comes with being a parent. It gets hard to even find 5 minutes to go the bathroom privately let alone call a friend. While it's probably not realistic to think that we can be exactly the girlfriends that we are when we are single and childless, the SATC foursome inspired me to try harder.

2. Relationships/marriage are not fairytales. I have heard people say that if you really love someone, it's not hard work but I don't agree. Marriage is hard work, loving your partner is what makes you want to put in the effort. It is so easy starting from the time that you know it's a serious relationship to get wrapped up in how it should be rather than how your relationship really is. From the time we are little girls we read books about the princess finding true love and then living "happily ever after". What the heck is happily ever after anyway? We get caught up in planning our weddings so much so that every little detail is something that we obsess over. Really during the time we are engaged, we should be planning for a lifetime of marriage not a wedding day. My wedding was perfect, not because it happened without flaws to the plan but because I married my soul mate. I know how caught up I got in the planning, the details and the inevitable drama that comes along with major events. I also remember being a few days into our honeymoon and suddenly realizing that all that stressing out was stupid. All that day should ever have been about was us. Everyone comes to your big party and enjoys the food and the dancing and the wine and that's great. But a marriage is about the two people who are in it, for better or for worse.

Stay tuned for a picture post of our weekend fun.